Money

Aug. 19th, 2020 02:37 pm
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So there was an AITA post about how their wife has a 'secret' bank account and it made me think of money and how it is organized in my life. 

I had a savings account from the time I was very little, Birthday money and such all went in there. There were only deposits until high school were I would deposit babysitting money and take money out for big trips.  Then when I went to college I got a  credit card which i used twice a year for the first 2 years. 

I got a new checking and savings account halfway through college when I started working at staples. This was fully mine. I opened it. I still have it and my paycheck still get deposited there. 

When Hubs and I moved in together (after engagement but before marriage) we signed up for a joint account that we both deposited money into for rent/grocery/household expenses. We don't put in a 50/50 split but rather more representative to our salaries.I think right now it is like a 60/40 split cause he makes more money.  We have reviewed what our contributions are ever 18 months or so. I calculate up what our average monthly expenses are (Mortgage, childcare, grocery, internet, pet expenses, cell phones) and we make sure that we are depositing that much plus an extra 10%. We also put any monetary gifts/extra money that are to both of us in there. (wedding, anniversary,  tax refund).

Everything else goes into our personal accounts (Both checking and savings). From our personal accounts we pay for our student loans, credit cards, car payments, gifts for each other and any other purchase we want. For me that is yarn and more yarn, for him that is computer part or stuff for his latest projects. This means we can buy what we want and the other will (mostly) be quiet about it. 

We also recently opened a joint savings account to start saving for a down payment for a house. we each put some money in there. I put some in every paycheck he puts some in twice a month after paying his bills. 


So I think in a average paycheck it breaks down like this for me.
40% goes to the joint checking account for joint bills. 
30% to personal checking account
20% goes to my personal savings account
10% to the joint savings account. 

This is what works for us. I am a saver and he is a spender but we both hate doing budgets.

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So last week hubby had a minor surgery. Minor as in it was done in an outpatient clinic and took like an hour. But it was still surgery with general anesthesia and it was on his face. Which is kind of an important part. 

Honestly the waiting while it happened was the easiest part. I had brought my knitting, cause I wanted to keep my hands busy and my MIL hung out with me. The surgery went well and besides a little bit of nausea hubby was good coming back up and then getting him home, minus the intense hunger.

Since then, my life has involved a lot of gauze, nasal rinses and humidifiers. Thankfully after the first 2 days, hubby could be left alone to change and clean everything, which meant I got to focus on parenting. Solo parenting is hard. 

I was lucky that our family is close by and was able to help, from bringing hubby lunch when I went back to work, to taking kiddo for a night so that I could get some sleep too. 

I also made sure to give myself permission to buy dinner so that I wasn't giving myself more stress. Also hubby did step up to ask for help for us both and made it so it was actually help and not just more work. 

So while I/We needed more help then I originally thought, I wasn't as afraid to ask for. I have realized that I really enjoy helping people and that I should give my family/friends the same opportunity to help as well. 



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So yesterday I leveled up in Adulting. We signed our wills (with witnesses). So the husband is having a minor surgery tomorrow. So that finally got our butts into gear to officially have a will. Mostly so that we could say that if something happened to both of us, who is going to take care of the kiddo. It really wasn't that crazy, cause basically everything is either going to each other or the kid.  But there is a little less anxiety because we have our decisions written down. 

This of course means that I will spend a bunch of hours waiting while the husband is prepping for surgery, having surgery and then recovering from surgery. Thank goodness I am a knitter. Maybe I will finish my socks for the craft-a-long. (That is another post)


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So a friend asked if people actually kept their work clothes on through dinner and putting kids to sleep or if they change as soon as they get home. 

This made me think about how a think of my day.  Pre-kiddo I would get out of my work clothes probably as soon as I could, then I would make dinner or whatever needed to be done. But now with a little one I stay in my work clothes until we go upstairs to get him ready for bed. I often change into my pj's while my husband gets the kiddo changed.  I will note that shoes come off right away, unless I know that I have to leave the house again (to hit the store, knitting night).

I have come to the conclusion that when I change into my pj's it is a signal that I can relax and all of my work is done. Now that I am responsible for a little one, I am not able to relax until kiddo is down for the night. So the change of clothes while later, is still marking the same thing, that I am able to relax. of course this means that my 'work day' is longer. While pre-kiddo I would be in work clothes from 8am- 5pm because it really only cover my actual job. Now I am in work clothes from 7am-7pm which covers my actual job and all of the child-facing time pre-work and post-work. 

That 3 hours a day adds up. It is time that I don't consider 'relaxing' because I am parenting, which is exhausting.


This would also show why on weekends, I don't stay in my pjs, rather I will get dressed then get kiddo dressed. While we may not go out right away, my day/my work has already begun and thus I need to be dressed for it.
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January has apparently been a month of working on financial stuff. Mostly for long term gain/growth.
  • Took a look at our cell phone bill and internet bill. Cut $50 out of the monthly bills. (Extra $600 a year)
  • Submitted an application to refinance my student loans. If this goes through my loans will be paid off by 2029 and I will save a few thousand dollars in interest overall. Just need to gather the rest of the documents to get it processed. 
  • Planned a (small list) of home projects that will get done after getting our tax refund. (new water heater, installing a ceiling light in the bedroom, fixing another light). Money invested in the house.
  • Plus I have been using a new service to help me squirrel away some money to help pad my savings account. 


Will have to do an update on goals maybe later this week.

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