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So yesterday I leveled up in Adulting. We signed our wills (with witnesses). So the husband is having a minor surgery tomorrow. So that finally got our butts into gear to officially have a will. Mostly so that we could say that if something happened to both of us, who is going to take care of the kiddo. It really wasn't that crazy, cause basically everything is either going to each other or the kid.  But there is a little less anxiety because we have our decisions written down. 

This of course means that I will spend a bunch of hours waiting while the husband is prepping for surgery, having surgery and then recovering from surgery. Thank goodness I am a knitter. Maybe I will finish my socks for the craft-a-long. (That is another post)

So a friend asked if people actually kept their work clothes on through dinner and putting kids to sleep or if they change as soon as they get home. 

This made me think about how a think of my day.  Pre-kiddo I would get out of my work clothes probably as soon as I could, then I would make dinner or whatever needed to be done. But now with a little one I stay in my work clothes until we go upstairs to get him ready for bed. I often change into my pj's while my husband gets the kiddo changed.  I will note that shoes come off right away, unless I know that I have to leave the house again (to hit the store, knitting night).

I have come to the conclusion that when I change into my pj's it is a signal that I can relax and all of my work is done. Now that I am responsible for a little one, I am not able to relax until kiddo is down for the night. So the change of clothes while later, is still marking the same thing, that I am able to relax. of course this means that my 'work day' is longer. While pre-kiddo I would be in work clothes from 8am- 5pm because it really only cover my actual job. Now I am in work clothes from 7am-7pm which covers my actual job and all of the child-facing time pre-work and post-work. 

That 3 hours a day adds up. It is time that I don't consider 'relaxing' because I am parenting, which is exhausting.


This would also show why on weekends, I don't stay in my pjs, rather I will get dressed then get kiddo dressed. While we may not go out right away, my day/my work has already begun and thus I need to be dressed for it.

Parenting is like being a computer.
When you are on, you are often doing many things at a time.
Sometimes the computer goes to sleep, but at any time something may make you jump right into actions. Like naptime or after bedtime. You can start doing something else, cleaning, hobbies but you know that you could be pulled away at any time.

Sometimes the computer is off and you don't have to even keep an ear out for the kid. This is when he is with someone else (Day Care, Grandparents). I should be able to do things fully with full attention. But there is going to be a point when the computer starts back up, either because it is the end of the day or because I have gotten a phone call and need to go get him.

Please note I really do like being a mom but it is really exhausting. Which is why I fell asleep before 9pm last night.