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Asking for help isn't a bad thing
Jun. 17th, 2019 02:45 pmSo last week hubby had a minor surgery. Minor as in it was done in an outpatient clinic and took like an hour. But it was still surgery with general anesthesia and it was on his face. Which is kind of an important part.
Honestly the waiting while it happened was the easiest part. I had brought my knitting, cause I wanted to keep my hands busy and my MIL hung out with me. The surgery went well and besides a little bit of nausea hubby was good coming back up and then getting him home, minus the intense hunger.
Since then, my life has involved a lot of gauze, nasal rinses and humidifiers. Thankfully after the first 2 days, hubby could be left alone to change and clean everything, which meant I got to focus on parenting. Solo parenting is hard.
I was lucky that our family is close by and was able to help, from bringing hubby lunch when I went back to work, to taking kiddo for a night so that I could get some sleep too.
I also made sure to give myself permission to buy dinner so that I wasn't giving myself more stress. Also hubby did step up to ask for help for us both and made it so it was actually help and not just more work.
So while I/We needed more help then I originally thought, I wasn't as afraid to ask for. I have realized that I really enjoy helping people and that I should give my family/friends the same opportunity to help as well.
Honestly the waiting while it happened was the easiest part. I had brought my knitting, cause I wanted to keep my hands busy and my MIL hung out with me. The surgery went well and besides a little bit of nausea hubby was good coming back up and then getting him home, minus the intense hunger.
Since then, my life has involved a lot of gauze, nasal rinses and humidifiers. Thankfully after the first 2 days, hubby could be left alone to change and clean everything, which meant I got to focus on parenting. Solo parenting is hard.
I was lucky that our family is close by and was able to help, from bringing hubby lunch when I went back to work, to taking kiddo for a night so that I could get some sleep too.
I also made sure to give myself permission to buy dinner so that I wasn't giving myself more stress. Also hubby did step up to ask for help for us both and made it so it was actually help and not just more work.
So while I/We needed more help then I originally thought, I wasn't as afraid to ask for. I have realized that I really enjoy helping people and that I should give my family/friends the same opportunity to help as well.
